Good communicatorActive listenerExpresses feelings openlyDoesn't play mind gamesResponds to texts reasonablyCan have hard conversationsDoesn't ghost or breadcrumbEmotionally availableEmotionally matureManages anger wellDoesn't guilt tripShows empathyValidates my feelingsDoesn't dismiss concernsRespects my boundariesRespects my timeRespects my familyRespects my friendsDoesn't pressure meTakes no for an answerRespects my privacyHonest and transparentTrustworthyKeeps promisesNo lying or manipulationAdmits mistakesTakes accountabilityNo gaslightingConsistent effortPlans actual datesFollows throughMakes me a priorityShows up when it mattersRemembers important thingsPuts in equal effortHas their own lifeHas their own friendsHas their own hobbiesNot codependentFinancially responsibleHas career ambitionsSelf-sufficientShares my valuesSame page on kidsCompatible lifestylesSimilar life goalsAligned on marriageSupports my goalsRespects my beliefsNo jealousy issuesNot controllingDoesn't compare to exesOver their exNo baggage dumpingHealthy friendshipsGood family relationshipsPhysical chemistryAffectionateQuality time togetherSexual compatibilityRespects physical boundariesAttracted to themMakes me feel safeKind to strangersKind to service workersNot arrogantHumbleHas a sense of humorPositive attitudeNot constantly negativeOpen to feedbackWilling to growWorks on themselvesGoes to therapySelf-awareLearns from mistakesDoesn't repeat patternsClean and hygienicLives close enoughAvailable scheduleNo substance issuesStable living situationGets along with my petSimilar sleep scheduleGood communicatorActive listenerExpresses feelings openlyDoesn't play mind gamesResponds to texts reasonablyCan have hard conversationsDoesn't ghost or breadcrumbEmotionally availableEmotionally matureManages anger wellDoesn't guilt tripShows empathyValidates my feelingsDoesn't dismiss concernsRespects my boundariesRespects my timeRespects my familyRespects my friendsDoesn't pressure meTakes no for an answerRespects my privacyHonest and transparentTrustworthyKeeps promisesNo lying or manipulationAdmits mistakesTakes accountabilityNo gaslightingConsistent effortPlans actual datesFollows throughMakes me a priorityShows up when it mattersRemembers important thingsPuts in equal effortHas their own lifeHas their own friendsHas their own hobbiesNot codependentFinancially responsibleHas career ambitionsSelf-sufficientShares my valuesSame page on kidsCompatible lifestylesSimilar life goalsAligned on marriageSupports my goalsRespects my beliefsNo jealousy issuesNot controllingDoesn't compare to exesOver their exNo baggage dumpingHealthy friendshipsGood family relationshipsPhysical chemistryAffectionateQuality time togetherSexual compatibilityRespects physical boundariesAttracted to themMakes me feel safeKind to strangersKind to service workersNot arrogantHumbleHas a sense of humorPositive attitudeNot constantly negativeOpen to feedbackWilling to growWorks on themselvesGoes to therapySelf-awareLearns from mistakesDoesn't repeat patternsClean and hygienicLives close enoughAvailable scheduleNo substance issuesStable living situationGets along with my petSimilar sleep schedule

Stop dating the wrong people.

We all know what we want. Until feelings get involved and suddenly every red flag looks pink.

Sound familiar?

Ignored red flags because you caught feelings

Your friends saw it coming. You didn't.

Spent months discovering dealbreakers you could've spotted in weeks

Kept making excuses for someone who wasn't showing up

The Dating Checklist

what actually matters

Green Flags

  • Words match actions
  • Remembers little things
  • Makes you feel safe
  • Actually asks about you
  • Apologizes when wrong
  • Has their own life

Red Flags

  • Love bombs way too fast
  • Words never match actions
  • You're always anxious
  • Every ex is 'crazy'
  • Everything is your fault
  • Hops from relationship to relationship

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How it works

Build Your Checklist

Write down what actually matters to you. Not what looks good on paper — what you need.

Add People

Someone new? Add them. Track what you observe, not what you hope for.

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Clear scores show who meets the bar and who you've been making excuses for.

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